People will stare. Make it worth their while → Jean Louis Sabaji Haute Couture | S/S ‘14
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Nine Steps to Creating an Amazing Fashion Shoot
Skill Level: Intermediate
1. Have a Concept
The most important part of coming up with a concept for a shoot is knowing your personal style. What kinds of things are you drawn to? Those things make up who you are, and will show in your creative work. Keep a folder of ideas (I call mine my StyleBook) where you save images, scribblings, music videos or cool web pages - things you can go back to and reference anytime for inspiration.
Once you figure out what kind of image you want to shoot - start looking at all of the things you will need to make that shoot happen. Props, sets, space…leave no stone unturned. The fewer logistical surprises on the day of shooting, the better.
2. Find Your Model
Who do you want in your shoot? You might need to decide a few factors ahead of time like gender, hair color, eye color, hair length, body type or ethnicity. You can always call your friends who you think might fit, or you can go with a modeling agency. Your friends are lovely, I’m sure, but agencies have many advantages.
All of their models are already categorized for you, so they can choose someone very quickly. That person will already be trained on what to do when they are in front of a camera. All paperwork and liability involved with the model and the publishing of the image are covered by the agency, as are all of the fees associated with booking talent. It’s a safe bet if you can afford it.
3. Find Your Crew
Easier said than done. You might be shooting with just you and the model, and you are doing everything yourself like makeup, hair and set design. You could also be shooting for Vogue and have to coordinate a set of 200+ people who all need to be paid, fed and wrangled. Know what you are up against, and think long and hard about folks in the following categories:
Producers, Assistants, Lighting, Set Design, Makeup, Hair, Caterers, Security, Location Scouts, Trailers/Mobile Home Crew or Digital Artists.
This is a meeting of the minds. This is where you lay out all of the details for the shoot. You coordinate the elements and the personnel. Where. When. How to get there. Who does what at what time. How many shots. How long each shot should take. How to budget your time. Rain contingencies. Payment plans for each person. Payment schedules. How expenses out of pocket get covered. From these meetings, you budget your expenses and determine your margins.
5. Dress Rehearsal
This is an opportunity to preset the lights and test the technique. Walk through the shoot in your mind and on the ground. Get equipment set up and tested. Run your wires. Set up a clear traffic pattern for the shoot. Test the lighting technique. Spend time playing and testing to discover something new and develop the mechanical end of the job. This is an opportunity to play creatively toward the development of a new look for the shot.
There are three means to communicate the idea: Verbal, Visual, Visceral. Plan a routine. Show the kind of gestures. The attitude on their face. Explain to them verbally. Show them test shots and tear sheets of things that appeal to you. And finally physically show them. Get up and do it yourself. If they see you do it, they don’t feel as foolish doing it too.
This where the fun begins. Let yourself go and make as many shots as you can. Keep all of your goals for the shoot in mind and make sure that you get every shot you planned for. Once this is achieved, think outside of the box. Sometimes, the coolest shots are the ones you never imaged you would ever get. Sometimes you hit it off with the model so well, they feel comfortable telling you THEIR ideas. Do not restrict yourself creatively.
8. Editing and Post
Establish a workflow for all editing and post production. Edit the whole shoot down to manageable number of images - usually 25-50. If you are working with a client, edit those selections down to 5-10. Show these to your client and open a dialogue about which shots of those fit what they were looking for in the concept.
Take the images you both decide upon and bring them into post production. Clean up, manipulate and make any compositional changes necessary.
How are you going to get these images to your client? There are sites available to send larger images like USendit (up to 2 gigs) and Maverick Solutions (allowing up to 10 gigs). You may also choose to send them in a hard drive or other storage device. Decide on this method ahead of time, and deliver them in the agreed upon time frame.
Photography by Bex
I am a cis-female who personally enjoys anal sex. If you would have asked me a year ago if anal sex would be something I’d ever do, I would have probably told you “no” because of all the misinformation about it out there. However, after educating myself, I made the decision to try it with my partner and ended up loving it.
First, some common questions.
Q: Does anal sex hurt?
A: Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that anal sex or anal play “has” to hurt. They are wrong and misinformed. While it may not be for everybody, there is no reason that it has to hurt and can be very pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver. Through this guide, I hope I can give you a better idea of how to engage in pain-free anal sex or anal play.
Q: Isn’t anal sex really dirty?
A: Here’s an excerpt from one of my favorite sex books:
Let’s review a little anatomy. The anal canal is less than an inch long and leads into the rectum, which is anywhere from five to nine inches long. The rectum leads, in turn, to the colon. The rectum itself is only a passageway, not a storageplace, so it is unlikely that you’ll come across more than a few traces of feces in the course of your explorations. The fact that the rectum’s sexual status suffers due to its participation in the digestive process is somewhat arbitrary. After all, the digestive process stars with your mouth, and nobody considers kissing a disgusting activity.
If you’re still skittish, take a shower or bath before engaging in anal penetration, or better yet, use latex gloves or a condom when you engage in anal penetration. Unless you’re an expert, enemas aren’t necessary or recommended, a simple dip in the tub is sufficient preparation for most anal activities. That said, the bacteria found in one’s anus/rectum is not safe for vaginas. While it’s okay to switch from vaginal penetration to anal penetration, never switch from anal penetration to vaginal penetration without changing condoms or washing what you were being penetrated with, whether that’s a penis, fingers, or toys.
Q: Is anal sex just for gay men?
A: There are many physiological reasons for both people with penises and people with vaginas to enjoy anal sex or anal play. No matter what gender you are or what sexual orientation you identify with, the anus is rich in nerve endings. Pressure and fullness in the rectum feels pleasurable to some people, in the same way that pressure and fullness in the vagina feels pleasurable to some people. Anal penetration can stimulate both the perineal area and G-spot in women and the bulb of the penis and prostate gland in men.
Q: Do I have to use a condom for anal sex?
A: It is a good idea (dare I say, necessary?) to use a condom unless both you and your partner/s have been tested negative for STD’s.
Now onto the good stuff! Note that everything I’m about to say is what I know works for me and is one possible way to approach anal play/anal sex. You may approach it a different way.
Lube, lube, and more lube! Since anuses and rectums don’t produce any natural lubrication, you must use lube if you are looking for a pain-free anal experience. Some people prefer oil-based lubes since they don’t dry up as quickly, but it is not recommended by experts, especially since it destroys condoms. Try to find a thicker water-based lubricant without nonoxynol-9 (it’s potentially irritating) or benzocaine (I’ll explain this in a bit) and apply it lavishly. Use more lube than you think you’d ever need, and try to get it inside of your anus/rectum if possible rather than just whatever you’re being penetrated with.
Relaxation is of the utmost importance when it comes to pain-free anal sex and anal play. The anus is ringed by two sphincter muscles, one right on top of the other. The external sphincter is the one you voluntarily control; the internal sphincter is involuntary. I get so many questions from women whose partners have asked them to engage in anal sex with them. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of anal play or anal sex, do not try it. When you’re tense and not relaxed, as you’re probably going to be if you’re engaging in something that you are scared of or uncomfortable with, then the likelihood of anal sex being painful is going to shoot up exponentially. This is because that muscle — the internal sphincter — will tighten up reflexively if you try to force your way into your anus, which can result in excruciating pain. With practice and the right mindset, though, it is possible to gain some control over the internal sphincter.
It took me several months of mental preparation and research to become comfortable enough with the idea of anal sex to try it with my partner, so don’t feel bad if you’re not ready to try it just yet (or if you never want to try it!) If you think you’re ready to try anal sex/anal play now, it’s time to figure out what helps you relax. I prefer to engage in anal sex and anal play after I’ve engaged in a LOT of foreplay with my partner, because it helps me relax and puts me more in the “up for anything” mindset.
Respect what your body is telling you. This, my friends, is the reason I told you earlier to stay away from lube with benzocaine (or other anesthetic ingredients) in it. These are specifically marketed for anal sex to numb your anus/rectum, but I would strongly suggest staying away from them. The network of nerve endings in your anus and outer rectum is your best defense against hurting yourself. As with any kind of penetration, pain is a warning signal that you should stop what you’re doing — the last thing you want to do is take away that signal and risk harming yourself.
Communication, trust, and patience are key. My current partner is the only partner I’ve engaged in anal sex with because he is the only one I’ve trusted enough to, partly due to the excellent communication we have regarding sex. Discuss your expectations for anal sex/play, discuss how you’d like it to progress. Tell your partner what feels good and tell your partner immediately when something hurts. Trusting that your partner will respect your boundaries and stop if something is painful will help you relax, which will likely make anal penetration more enjoyable. It is also good to keep in mind that anal penetration is generally more time consuming and requires more preparation than vaginal penetration. It’s best not to embark on it on the spur of the moment. One bad anal penetration experience can ruin it forever. Take your time, and try not to be so goal-oriented — enjoy exploring the range of new sensations and the new experience and the ebb and flow of arousal.
Okay! Now that we’ve got that covered, we can talk about how my partner and I usually engage in anal play and anal sex. We’ll start with a lot of kissing and erotic touching. He’ll nibble my ears, neck, and nipples. He’ll lightly trace his fingers over my ribcage. He’ll flip me over on my stomach and perform analingus on me (which, by the way, you can use dental dams for!) Generally, he’ll perform cunnilingus on me and give me at least one orgasm (I am the type of person who can have multiple orgasms, but some people are too sensitive after one orgasm to continue, so this may be a good or bad idea depending on what type of person you are). Sometimes when he goes down on me he will play with my ass with one finger, which I’d definitely recommend doing during oral sex if you’re preparing for anal penetration. After I’ve had one orgasm of a few, we’ll move onto vaginal penetration. Again, this is to help me relax and get into the right mindset for anal penetration. Usually, while we’re doing this, he will insert 1-2 fingers into my ass (with lube) to start stretching me out. Once I’ve decided I’m ready to get into it, my partner will take a 5-10 minutes stretching me out. He will start massaging lube onto the outside of my anus. Very slowly, he will insert one finger, work some lube in, work up to two, work some more lube in, work up to three, and — you guessed it — work some more lube in before we try penis penetration.
(Again, note: this preparation/foreplay routine works really well with me, but you may want something different. Many people report using toys of grading size over days/weeks/months helps them become more comfortable with penetration, some people use buttplugs beforehand. Remember, if you are using toys, never use toys without a flared base for anal penetration.)
Next, my partner will apply more lube at the entrance of my anus and put of coating of lube on his own penis. He will then position his penis at the entrance of my anus. He will wait for me to push into him and I will usually hold his penis in place to keep it steady. He will always ask me if it feels good or if it hurts. Unless it hurts, he will push further into me until his penis is fully inside of me. (I prefer to do it this way, but some people prefer to start thrusting before the penis, toy, or fingers are fully inside.) Once he’s inside of me, he will start thrusting very slowly and will only increase speed when I tell him that it’s okay.
While my partner is penetrating me, I like to add extra stimulation to help me enjoy the experience even more. Sometimes I will rub my clitoris with my fingers, sometimes I will use a vibrator on my clitoris, and on occasion, I have added vaginal penetration with a vibrator while my partner is penetrating my ass. (If you have a penis, you might want to consider masturbating yourself if your partner is penetrating you.) The entire time we communicate with body language and explicit words and my partner will pause or stop completely if I’m in pain.
As for positions, that’s entirely up to you. I first had anal intercourse in a modified missionary position because it’s what I was most comfortable in. I wanted my partner to be able to see and read my face and it made for an incredibly intimate experience. Some people prefer to be penetrated on all fours, and some people prefer to be on top when they’re being penetrated. Keep in mind that all the positions you can use for vaginal intercourse can be adapted to anal intercourse, the most important thing is that you are comfortable and relaxed in the position you choose. Also, you can always try new positions later and once you’re more comfortable with anal sex/play!
So here’s the tl;dr version of everything I just said: use lots and lots of lube, make sure you’re relaxed, communicate with your partner, stop when you feel pain, take it very slowly, and respect your and your partner’s boundaries. This guide may not cover everything you need to know about pain-free anal sex, which is why I urge you to do your research if you’re considering it for the first time. It can be an extremely pleasurable experience for anyone of any gender or sexual orientation, but it can also be painful if you don’t approach it right.
Pretty great guide. Only thing I have to add is that if you have bowel issues there may be stool present in the rectum. If you do have bowel issues and like anal sex it’s a good idea to take care of your bowels as much as you can by eating healthy foods and drinking lots of water and talking to a doctor if you have a lot of problems and try to see about treatments.
As promised! This is how I letter my work. Hope this is helpful to someone!Here’s some more useful links:
Elements of Sex Trafficking
Act: Recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of persons;
Means: Threat or use of force, coercion, abduction, fraud, deception, abuse of power or vulnerability, or giving payments or benefits to a person in control of the victim;
Purpose: Prostitution of others, sexual exploitation, forced labor or services, or slavery.
- From the 2000 UN Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons, Especially Women and Children, ratified by 154 countries. (x)
[Highlighted elements of sex trafficking in the porn industry connect with the examples Lubben gives in this specific gifset, other elements do occur in the porn industry as well].
"The federal Trafficking Victims Protection Act defines the crime of human trafficking as:
A. The recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for the purpose of a commercial sex act where such an act is induced by force, fraud, or coercion, or in which the person induced to perform such act has not attained 18 years of age, or
B. The recruitment, harboring, transportation, provision, or obtaining of a person for labor or services, through the use of force, fraud, or coercion for the purpose of subjection to involuntary servitude, peonage, debt bondage, or slavery.” - (x)
… [P]ersons are trafficked into the international sex trade, often by force, fraud, or coercion. The sex industry has rapidly expanded over the past several decades. It involves sexual exploitation of persons, predominantly women and girls, involving activities related to prostitution, pornography, sex tourism, and other commercial sexual services. The low status of women in many parts of the world has contributed to a burgeoning of the trafficking industry. -
The Victims of Trafficking and Violence Prevention Act (TVPA). TVPA combats trafficking in persons, especially into the sex trade, slavery, and involuntary servitude. It has been reauthorized three times since its initial passage: (x)
THAT IS RAPE
We need to be talking about this and we need to be making sex work safe. No one should be made to feel like this treatment is okay.